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Yesterday, I shared with you a couple of "life hacks" that have guided me into the direction that I envisioned.
Of course having that vision is #1 Followed by trusting the process. Committing to today to keep you on track. I'd like to share two more:
When this injury of mine decided to be here longer than expected, I went through a patch of deep sadness. Maybe even some mild depression. I’ve always tried to be hopeful and positive with any situation, but the longer the injury persisted, the more I started to question if I was ever going to be “myself” again. My identity was wrapped up in what I could do physically. I was proud of how strong I was. Having a little gym of weights that I can’t even use was frustrating. But, I had to be my own client for a moment. I had to change the narrative and conversation in my head about what I couldn’t do, to focusing on everything else I COULD do. Because the story we tell ourselves is the truth you know.
Nourish your purpose now, Rebecca
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I wanted to share a couple of things I shared on my call last night that have guided the direction of the way things have unfolded for me.
I’ve shared a lot of questions this week that I struggled with for several years. There is still so much to my story but the questions are similar with each adversity that has presented itself. I believe there is a lesson and opportunity when we’re faced with something major in our lives. How we react, respond and grow from it is where I find the unexpected magic happens. For instance: When I sat down in Telluride, October 2017, to visualize where I wanted my life to go, to move forward, to let go of, I received a piece of advice from a dear friend and coach “put it out into the universe and it will unfold for you.” So I did. I planned out my 2-3 vision of what I wanted my life to look like. What I was doing Where I was spending my time What I was feeling What I was doing with my family Where were we traveling What our house looked like I got deep into that vision and after I wrote it down, I kept it nearby to look at, adjust if needed and keep it in the forefront of my mind. My 2-3 year vision started to unfold within 6 months. Imaging our outcome and trusting the process is monumental, not only in our physical body, but in our mental, emotional and spiritual body as well. Create a vision Imagine the outcome Trust the process If this resonates with you, send me a DM, let’s chat. Nourish your purpose now, Rebecca The pivotal point for me to even start thinking about a change for myself was when my mom died.
When I began the quest of health and wellness, it was for my mom. She was diabetic. She was overweight. What many people don’t know is, when I was a kid, my mom and I went to the 4th of July parade where we lived in Monument, Colorado. When we got out of the VW bus that her friend drove, blood had covered mom’s seat. She had hemorrhaged. She was carried off by ambulance and I stayed with close friends for a week. The vision I saw at the young age of 6 was something that could not be unseen. It also gave me the greatest fear – losing my mom. Because of that fear, I remember crying myself to sleep many nights, even in my teens. As I got older, everything I did, was to help her in any way possible. Just so we wouldn’t lose her. When she had her stroke, it was the hardest decision to make to let her go. Imagine all my life trying to help her and then I couldn’t. My passion for everything I was doing died along with her. I didn’t care to keep my studio open. I didn’t have any desire to keep doing what I was doing. I felt lost. Defeated. Devastated. F@*k it. But still, I kept going. Then when we found out we were pregnant with Emma, quiet whispers kept creeping in. Let the studio go. Be PRESENT with the family – with myself. I kept on for another couple of years but these quiet whispers were getting louder and louder. How can I slow this all down? How can I create simplicity in my life? Life is way too precious, I want to soak in every moment with my kiddos How can I turn off my brain going a million miles an hour of everything I HAVE to do so that I can be PRESENT? How am I going to make this all work if I close down my studio? How do I move FORWARD without it feeling like life is speeding up? Have you ever felt like this? This mental tug-of-war? Send me a message if so because I know exactly how that all feels. Those are the questions we’ll be looking at during our Nourish Your Purpose Now lesson THIS evening. TONIGHT July 8 6pm (MTN) Zoom ID – 475 696 7903 Password – summit Would be honored if you joined me Nourish your purpose now, Rebecca I’ve shared this before and it’s from one of those aha moments we have when we finally “get it.” My coach calls them Bruce Lee moments. They don’t necessarily come from Bruce Lee, but they still create an impact in our lives to help us move forward.
Here is an example of a Bruce Lee quote that has really resonated with me “I fear not the man who has practiced 10,000 kicks once, but I fear the man who has practiced one kick 10,000 times.” If you know me, you know one of my mantras is “keep it simple, master the basics.” But I wasn’t always this way. I used to pride myself in taking on so many tasks, challenges, clients, classes, certifications, etc. Between full-time work, full-time school, getting married, having kiddos, running a business, figure competitions, Spartan races, even a triathlon, and everything in between, I was ALL IN!! I was THE BEST (in my opinion of course, hence the perfectionism mentality I talked about yesterday) at multi-tasking! What happened? TOTAL BURNOUT. It was only a matter of time for me to be running on all cylinders for so long that this would happen. Something else happened. When the events ended, the challenges ended, the ALL IN training ended. I could quickly see how when so many people finish a challenge, they revert back to their old habits. There was a feeling of “now what?” It was always go, go, go, go and wondering if there was going to be a time to just BE. Once on got CLEAR and FOCUSED on what I wanted to achieve for my LIFE, then I could work backwards and narrow things down to fit my lifestyle, family, goals and really live life by design. It’s been so refreshing to be able to wake up and enjoy without having worry, anxiety, stress and seriousness about everything! But I also have to tell you, even when things started to unfold like I wanted, I went through a grieving process of what my life WAS like, of WHO I was. Realizing that my identity was wrapped up in the physical things my body could do and caught up on what I couldn’t do due to a chronic injury. How do you get peace of mind from something like that? How do you move away from the constant grind? How do you find simplicity in the ever chaotic and busy world? How do I fit it all in? What if I don’t get it right or it isn’t perfect? Does any of this relate to you? Send me a message if it does. Those are the questions we’ll be looking at during our Nourish Your Purpose Now lesson tomorrow evening. Wednesday July 8 6pm (MTN) Zoom ID – 475 696 7903 Would be honored if you joined me. Nourish your purpose now, Rebecca If you’re like the rest of us you’ve likely tried to change everything all at once. What happens?
It doesn’t work!! Something gives usually within the first week or second week and we either give up all together or get so mad at ourselves we feel inadequate, like a failure or that this is NEVER going to work because we can’t get it perfectly, every single time. Our mindset goes from excited and ready to overwhelm, stress, anxiety, frustration and anger. Experts tend to define perfectionism as “a combination of excessively high personal standards are overly critical self-evaluations.” 49 percent of women said their stress has increased over the past five years. 92 percent of working moms and 89 percent of stay-at-home mothers felt overwhelmed by work, home and parenting responsibilities, mostly due to perfectionism. Anxiety and depression are only some of the mental health problems that specialists have repeatedly linked with perfectionism. According to Wikipedia, perfectionism is a risk factor for obsessive compulsive disorder, obsessive compulsive personality disorder, eating disorders, social anxiety, social phobia, body dysmorphic disorder, workaholism, self-harm, substance abuse, and clinical depression as well as physical problems like chronic stress, and heart disease. Wow. Can we just step back and really let that sink in a moment? Does any of this relate to you? Send me a message if it does. I always talk about overwhelm, creating a balanced life and simplicity but having that connection to perfectionism really shines a light on why we’re always stuck in this cycle, doesn’t it? Where does this perfectionism come from and why is it getting in the way of living our best life? How do you learn to become more calm and present in a busy and chaotic world? How can you better harness the power of your inner self to create the life you want? Those are the questions we’ll be looking at during our Nourish Your Purpose Now lesson Wednesday evening. Wednesday July 8 6pm (MTN) Zoom ID – 475 696 7903 Would be honored if you joined me. Nourish your purpose now, Rebecca I’m reminded of an event from one year ago today. We had just finished a quick trip to Vegas to see Aerosmith then detoured to the Grand Canyon before heading home.
Little did we know, one year later we wouldn’t have that opportunity. But we have a different opportunity. Most of us are slowly emerging from our homes to stores, restaurants and starting to return back to our place of employment, offices, etc. Some of the conversations that I’ve been having with people are those of concern and frustration getting back their normal routine after experiencing the freedom being able to work from home. I get it. I really do. We know from experience that to make drastic and lasting change, you need to simplify. COVID has taught us that. It taught us to simplify quickly. So now we are thinking what can we do to keep that feeling? That experience. That freedom. Keep the simplest tasks a priority and keep them consistent. So you need to ask yourself, what are the simplest tasks for you? Maybe it’s: 🦋Getting up 15-30 minutes earlier to get some movement in. 🦋Setting out your workout clothes the night before 🦋Packing your lunch the night before 🦋Taking a few minutes to sit quietly, journal, visualize your outcome on your intentions. Maybe take that outside and listen to the nature. We’ve learned that we can pivot and make things work during this time. We’ve learned what we want to keep in our lives We’ve learned what we don’t want to keep in our lives. Now that we’ve had that awakening, it’s time to make some decisions. If you get off track or feel overwhelmed, or if you catch yourself rushing, don't panic. Simply pause. Relax. Reboot. And go back to keeping it simple and mastering the basics. If this resonates with you and you'd like to hop on a Discovery call, shoot me a message and let's chat! Nourish your purpose now, Rebecca “There’s no better way to get your mind right than waking up before daybreak and clanking some iron, stretching the muscles, elevated the heart rate, and changing the physiology of the body.” – Todd Durkin, Get Your Mind Right.
How do we become a person of routine? Having a routine is another way of saying that you’ve established certain customs or patterns of behavior, which are better known as habits. Everybody has habits whether they know them or not. Do we tend to stay up late, sleep in, then rush off to work? Only to find, at the end of the day, we’re too tired from the drive home and its dinner then family and back to bed? Or maybe in our free time we spend it scrolling on social media, playing a game on the phone or watching Netflix… How can we flip the switch to creating habits that are going to get us to our goals? To help us lead a healthy life. To help us stay on the right track. I’m going to share a few that my mentor and Coach Todd has outlined in his book:
I hope these tips help you establish a routine to eliminate your limits, overwhelm and frustration and on the road to a healthy and balanced life! Let me know if this resonated with you or if you need to set up a discovery call, send me a message and let’s chat! Nourish your purpose now, Rebecca Working in the fitness industry for over 15 years, I can say that one of the biggest mental hurdles holding people back from real success is a limiting belief system.
Maybe it was the way you were raised, or the people surrounding you, or a lack of self-confidence, or even fear. If you nurture limiting beliefs, they’ll rule your behavior and your life. To attack your limiting belief systems, realize that you must work on strengthening your mindset first. If your mental, emotional, and spiritual side (your inner self) is out of shape, you’ll never find the success in life you hope to find – no matter how hard you work your body. Most people won’t take the time to do this and instead will just do the training program and nutrition tips looking for the “answer.” These same people will get only a few weeks into the program and lose motivation, and they will be destined to fail because they never took the time to examine WHY they wanted to change in the first place and, more important, what they were willing to do to achieve that change. You are looking for something. Is it a feeling you’re after? Is it a look you want? Whatever it is, it is within you. Start to peel back the layers to get to who you really want to become. Set aside some alone time in the next day or two to write and let your soul sing. Without considering whether it’s realistic, write down what you absolutely want to achieve during this journey. No limits! Be very specific. Define what becoming fit means to YOU. Mentally, physically and spiritually fit. For some it may mean moving without pain, having enough energy to play with the grand kids, or even to get through a day without crashing on the couch afterwards. Perhaps it is to get through the day without feeling the overwhelm of everything you need to do ...to live the life you desire ...to have peace, simplicity and balance Spend some time with it and be true to yourself. Shoot me a message if you need help mapping this out! Nourish your purpose now, Today is the day!!
For years I’ve heard: I’ll start Monday... I’ll start next month... I’ll start on the first... We all know we can “start” anytime we want. Any day. Any month. Yet, we continually romanticize something magical about starting on the first. On a Monday. Next month.
Today is the day to grab your journal and create the intentions you want. THEN, pick one or two things that you feel like you can WIN at and start taking step by step action to achieving it. It doesn’t need to be perfect. It doesn’t need to be everything all at once. In fact, I would prefer it wasn’t. Monday, June 1st. If there wasn’t a better time to start making the change you’ve wanted...well then, that’s ok. Because I also don’t want you to be married to the first. To Monday To next month. Why? Because if you don’t start today and you wanted too, what are you going to feel?
My message to you today is, don’t wait for the “perfect” time. Because there isn’t one. Imperfect action beats perfect inaction every time. If you need help with discovering and eliminating the overwhelm with this, send me a DM and let’s chat! Nourish your purpose now, Rebecca Three years ago was when I decided to stop lying to myself.
I would always pride myself to push my limits. To take on any task given to me. To begin my work day at 3am and end at 8pm. I was a workaholic. When I look back, I had been doing this type of schedule for over 20 years. If it wasn’t working my day job then finishing up my degree, it was working my day job then going to my next job, then my side hustle. Eventually that side hustle became a brick and mortar personal studio after years of planning, dreaming and creating. I made it happen. I made it work. I had a great system. Off at 10am from day job then open up my doors at 11am until 8pm at my studio. Let’s not forget to add some kids and family to the mix. But I made it work and I thrived on challenge, deadlines and presentation – in everything. It’s almost embarrassing to admit, but I wasn’t taking care of myself the way I am now. I didn’t have days off. I didn’t take vacations. 2018 was our first vacation in over 6 years. I didn’t do this for some pat on the back or Medal of Honor. It was just how my brain was wired, and I actually enjoyed it. I thrived on it. I literally didn’t know how to relax. To just BE. When I was pregnant with Emma, I kept telling myself that I needed to close my studio. Not because I didn’t like it anymore, but because my heart was tugging on something more. Balance. Time with my family. Time with myself. I was overwhelmed after adding a new baby to our daily routine. I was having anxiety attacks. They were debilitating. Some required emergency medical assistance. I was still operating on all cylinders but I keep hearing these quiet whispers get louder and louder that something needed to change. Being so overwhelmed I want to cry, or have moments of break down. Being so impatient because I knew I needed to get the work done but other things keep piling on. I was always told that there is no such thing as balance and even got laughed at such an ideal. I’m not sharing this for any sort of sympathy or affirmation that I’ve done the right thing. I’m sharing for those who may be feeling overwhelmed, stressed or on the brink of a breakdown that there IS such a thing as a balanced life. A harmonious life. Three years ago I got real with what I wanted out of life moving forward, dreamed and created it, again. If any of this resonates with you, I’m happy to chat! Send a DM and let’s have that conversation because you can do it too. Nourish your purpose now, Rebecca |
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