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The first time I realized I needed to recommit to myself was after I got married. We had been having a blast during our first year together and I had gained quite a bit of weight. I had been super active before we met and nights of going out with a few alcoholic drinks and junk food were adding up.
I went from 11% body fat to 28% … and I was devastated! I remember looking at my body in the mirror and not recognizing myself. Now, admittedly, this was an easy turn around for me. I set my mind to “getting my body back,” and I did. What I didn’t know, was just after I “got my body back,” I was going to have to recommit to myself again. Yup, I was pregnant. This time, it wasn’t an easy turn around. Our little Sophie came a month early via an emergency C-section but recovering from that wasn’t the biggest issue. My thyroid went all kinds of crazy and it took 3 years to get back to feeling somewhat “normal.” Recommitting to myself was on a whole new level but eventually, I felt back on top and even competed in various events like returning to figure competitions, Spartan races, 5k’s and even a triathlon. But again, as things would turn out that wouldn’t last long. Just as I found my rhythm again, life would knock me on my ass with the death of my mom. Life stopped. There are no words to describe the excruciating heartbreak... And this is where recommitting to myself would be the biggest test. I know mom would never want me to fall into a depression. I know she would never want me to lose sight of who I was or the intentions I set for myself and our little family. And believe me, I was headed that way So my solution? Recommit EVERYDAY. Especially on the days when we just want to push it all away and hide under the blankets. That’s it. Because over 16 years later and 6 years into teaching Recommit to YOU, I’m grateful for all of those experiences as it has allowed me to grow and evolve. In the Recommit to YOU Coaching – open now through Friday – I’ll be teaching you what that looks like in practice, how to recommit to you each and every time something throws you off track, how to understand your own limiting beliefs that keep you stuck, and how to bring movement and nutrition into balance. I’ll be sharing exactly WHY it is actually not hard, it’s literally the opposite of what we keep repeating and telling ourselves. If you know me at all, you know my entire goal in life is balance and simplicity. I want to be able to spend energy on the things that are important to me and I definitely do not want to spend energy on stressing about how to fit everything in or what I’m going to do the next time something comes up. Because as we all know, something always comes up. Let’s make things easier so you have the time and mental energy to spend on what you care about. Enrollment ends this Friday September 11th, and we start Monday. It will change your life, I promise. Happy to answer any questions you’ve got! Nourish your purpose now, Rebecca
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If you didn’t know this about me already, I’ve been in the Todd Durkin Mastermind Group for several years now collaborating and coaching with other fitness business professionals from around the world. It’s been a life changing experience and have built relationships with amazing fire breathing dragons who I call my family.
And right now we are all in a friendly MyZone competition. MyZone is a heart rate monitoring device that connects to your phone, allows you to see other people’s stats on heart rate, calories burned and MEPS earned (MyZone effort points, rewarding effort rather than fitness). You can also form challenges and section them off into teams which is what we’re doing right now. The majority of these people are machines! I used to be a machine! When I was at my day job, my nicknames varied between “machine,” “Becca the board killer,” “workhorse,” “the boss,” etc. If you know my recent aliments, I certainly don’t feel like a machine but very happy with my improvements. Here’s the message I want to deliver. It’s YOU vs. YOU. I am not the same person I used to be physically. Nobody is really. Some people make a radical shift in their mindset and change their appearance and strength and that is always awesome to see. It’s important for me to address this because there seems to be an almost depressive state people get into when they think back of what they “used to do” to the point that they give up completely. I’m going to do my Al Bundy reflection for a moment. I used to be a nationally ranked BMX competitor, state champion in my age group, figure competitor, and even competed in a triathlon not knowing how to swim and obstacle course Spartan Races. I would pride myself of how hard I could work at my day job then come home and kill it in my workouts and then the back yard. There is nothing greater than that sense of accomplishment. BUT!! Here’s the lesson from the message. It’s one of my core values and that’s to keep climbing. We have to keep moving that needle 2mm each day to the direction we want to go. And we have to keep celebrating the small wins! We have to keep getting up and doing even the smallest movements, any movements even if we don’t feel like it. Some days we have to get up and recommit to ourselves every single day. Maybe it’s because we’re tired, or sore, or not feeling well, or even if we just don’t want to and have become disenchanted with moving our bodies. Some days it’s easy and some days it can feel like a never ending battle to just get moving. I get it. I seriously do. I know I physically cannot do what I used to do and I’m totally ok with that and accept it fully. What I would not accept of myself is if I just gave up. If I stopped finding ways that my body could still benefit from and feel good with. We are our own test subjects and if something isn’t working we need to keep going until we find something that does. I get told almost on a daily basis from my students that I make things look easy. I take this as a compliment but also remind my students it’s my job to show the correct form so they know what to look for, feel and expect and to modify if needed. If I had trouble showing the correct form and couldn’t do it, it would be very unprofessional of me to expect my students to do it correctly if I couldn’t. So if you’re having that negative self-talk about comparing yourself to someone else or to what you used to be, take a breath and ask yourself what are the small steps you can do to keep moving forward? Focusing on those small imperfect wins add up and create a compound effect. Trust me, I’m also a recovering perfectionist. Imperfection action beats perfect inaction. As my coach Todd says, “Ready, fire, aim. If you wait to aim you’ll never fire.” What can you do to Recommit to YOU? Nourish your purpose now, Rebecca P.S. If you’re ready to recommit to you, I have a few open times for virtual training. Since COVID entered out lives, I have been training all online!! It has been wonderful to be able to continue to provide exercise, nutrition and mindset work for my students in this platform. Send me a message if this sounds like something you’re ready for! Most people feel that I may judge them for not eating perfectly. They are afraid to share with me what they've been eating.
Most people assume that I eat perfectly at every meal. Perfectionism almost ruined me with the expectations I set for myself. I’ve learned over the years through my own dieting adventures - DON’T TAKE ANYTHING AWAY FROM ME! Isn’t it crazy how once we’re told we can’t have something we want it more? One thing that has helped me over the years when it comes to food is having my non-negotiables in place. For instance: if I’m going to have a meal that’s typically known as a “cheat meal” you better believe I’m going to make it worth it. I firmly believe in moderation but what does that mean and how do we GET there? Because we all know we need to eat right but if we know this then why do 90% of all dieters regain their weight? I’m on my own journey right now. Slowly working my way back from an injury. We need to start with a beginners mindset even if we “know” what to do. Slowly building habits to get you on the right track so you’re not derailed with an all or nothing approach. Slowly adding in exercises to see how your body responds. Making sure you’re eating healthy the majority of the time so that you can enjoy something delicious once and awhile. Holding the vision of what you want to achieve Trust the process even if it is slow. Run your own race. What worked for your cousin losing a million pounds in 6 weeks is more than likely not your race. Commit to today in taking the steps you need to be consistent. Enjoy the little things once and awhile Let me know if this resonates with you and want to schedule a call if you seem to be in the same cycle. Nourish your purpose now, Rebecca A little tough love today...
I asked a question yesterday in my private Facebook group: Is it MORE important to change diet and exercise or behavior patterns? For several weeks I’ve been sharing A LOT about mindset. It all ties in to this- Where the mind flows the body goes. You all have one thing in common. You’ve come to me one way or another for fitness and nutrition coaching. But none of that matters. Why? Because mindset matters most. In everything we do. Take weight loss for example: It's not just "I want to lose weight."
And this is no way meant to be rude, disrespectful or condescending at all. This is the exact language I’ve heard from so many women over the last 15 years. So let me ask… how is that working for you? It’s an honest question that, if you are still struggling with achieving your goals, maybe we need to be honest and get real with. Because here’s the thing, and I’ve seen this over and over again throughout my career in the fitness industry. Instead of playing the long game and making themselves a priority, every single day, people will jump to the next program. And then when that one doesn’t work, they move on to the next program, gym or trainer. And when that doesn’t work they move on again. Over time, a narrative, a story has built up in their heads that they’re a failure, and that nothing will work so why bother, that they will always be this way. Their unconscious narrative has given up before they even begin. Here is where everything that I’ve been talking about comes into the picture.
Because the story you tell is the truth you know. You don’t know what you don’t know. My coach said this today that completely resonated with me and I hope it does with you too, “Your success in anything is positively and absolutely guaranteed unless or until you get in the way.” Hold the vision Trust the process Commit to the day Nourish your purpose now Mad love for you all Reach out if this resonates with you and you’re ready to learn how to change the story you’ve been telling yourself. Rebecca Knowing what’s important to us and WHY gives us direction and purpose.
When we don’t do what we believe or feel in our gut to be “right”, we don’t feel the best. Our bodies, expressions, energy we give off and even actions show it. If we live by our values, things flow almost effortlessly. What do you value? What’s most important to you in life? What does an extraordinary life look like for you? What kind of person do you want to be? For myself, living by my personal core values is important. It is precious and I guard that. I’m not saying it’s always easy. Sometimes I have the shiny object syndrome or squirrel moments that try and steal my focus. I come back to my WHY. My values. My family. The life we've created. However you chose to envision your future, imagine it, capture it, fix in your mind exactly what you desire and have fun along the way. Nourish your purpose now, Rebecca P.S.- If you’re feeling like being a part of our next group of unstoppable ladies, shoot me a message, we begin our journey on Monday Yesterday I announced my next online wellness group. In it, you will learn the exact “roadmap” I was looking for all those years... The exact steps I took to change my circumstances, my health, and my life. No more excuses... no more limitations.... no more feeling lost, overwhelmed or repeating the same story over and over and over. Are you suffering from: * Inability to lose weight * Repeating the same old habits and stories * Mood issues * Depression * Brain fog * Chronic fatigue *Overwhelm *Stagnation *Over-thinking *Anxiety *Unable to get into a routine Are you stuck in this negative loop and can’t seem to step out if it? Most people never do, because they stay stuck in their heads, replaying the same dis-serving scenario. So many people want to make changes but get overwhelmed with where to start, thinking about all the many necessary steps they think it will take to get there. I will lead you in an 8 WEEK online wellness and mindset system that will start with the essential step: changing the narrative you keep telling yourself. During this 8 week Self-Discovery (group) course we will learn the fundamentals of:
What it includes: Pre: Laying the foundation and getting started
8 weeks
Signups begin immediately. YOU CAN MESSAGE ME PRIVATELY TO SIGN UP, ASK QUESTIONS, ETC. THE GROUP STARTS JULY 20th. The first step is to commit to trying, and I will be here to help you through. Journaling.
Mom had so many journals! Many of us have. To capture stories Family history Express self Frustration Dream In some ways, Facebook has been that way. We share our lives How can we grow Self-discover Get lost in our own thoughts for who we want to create our lives. But, like mom, we never finish a journal. We’ve never taken the time to have that daily introspection. Then when we do, we start a new journal. Often it’s because we don’t know where we put the other one! Soon, there’s a stack of journals with one or two entries. Or, what I’ve found over the years going through moms things, pieces of paper with notes on them. About a memory she had A family history story A poem she liked. Live a life worth telling a story about. How do we write the story we want to share with our family? How do we change the story we’ve been repeating over and over that doesn’t serve us? How do we go from stuck to sustainable? How do we eliminate our limits so that we can level up, move forward and experience positive proof instead of negative stories? Next Monday we start our Nourish Your Purpose Now Self-Discovery group. A deep dive into eliminating your limits Removing road blocks Emotional release Vision creation Courage Strength If you want to change the story you’ve been telling yourself, send me a message if you’re in. We begin Monday July 20th. Nourish your purpose now, Rebecca Today I shared with my private Facebook group how our past influences and experiences shape our unconscious mind and how we react to events that are happening in our lives today.
Take weight loss for example: If you’ve ever tried to lose weight, chances are you’ve tried to do it more than once. Chances are you’ve “failed” more than once. Attempt after attempt a little piece of each one of those experiences is building in the back of your mind telling you that it’ll never work. No matter how hard you “try,” you know it won’t work and revert back to your old habits. We continue to get overwhelmed, stressed, depressed, confused, hopeless and angry. Insert anything you’ve tried and “failed” at: finances, relationships, career, etc. You didn’t fail. You’re not broken. If failing is nothing more than a "learning opportunity," then why are we afraid to fail? If you go looking for the negative in something or someone, you will find it. We will always have that Bound Nature energy coming into our lives. The key is to learn how to flow through it effortless when it arises. To TRUST the process The story you tell is the truth you know. I appreciate you listening to me ramble and share some light. If you want to change the story you keep telling yourself, I have a special announcement tomorrow. Stay tuned…. Nourish your purpose now, Rebecca Yesterday, I shared with you a couple of "life hacks" that have guided me into the direction that I envisioned.
Of course having that vision is #1 Followed by trusting the process. Committing to today to keep you on track. I'd like to share two more:
When this injury of mine decided to be here longer than expected, I went through a patch of deep sadness. Maybe even some mild depression. I’ve always tried to be hopeful and positive with any situation, but the longer the injury persisted, the more I started to question if I was ever going to be “myself” again. My identity was wrapped up in what I could do physically. I was proud of how strong I was. Having a little gym of weights that I can’t even use was frustrating. But, I had to be my own client for a moment. I had to change the narrative and conversation in my head about what I couldn’t do, to focusing on everything else I COULD do. Because the story we tell ourselves is the truth you know.
Nourish your purpose now, Rebecca I wanted to share a couple of things I shared on my call last night that have guided the direction of the way things have unfolded for me.
I’ve shared a lot of questions this week that I struggled with for several years. There is still so much to my story but the questions are similar with each adversity that has presented itself. I believe there is a lesson and opportunity when we’re faced with something major in our lives. How we react, respond and grow from it is where I find the unexpected magic happens. For instance: When I sat down in Telluride, October 2017, to visualize where I wanted my life to go, to move forward, to let go of, I received a piece of advice from a dear friend and coach “put it out into the universe and it will unfold for you.” So I did. I planned out my 2-3 vision of what I wanted my life to look like. What I was doing Where I was spending my time What I was feeling What I was doing with my family Where were we traveling What our house looked like I got deep into that vision and after I wrote it down, I kept it nearby to look at, adjust if needed and keep it in the forefront of my mind. My 2-3 year vision started to unfold within 6 months. Imaging our outcome and trusting the process is monumental, not only in our physical body, but in our mental, emotional and spiritual body as well. Create a vision Imagine the outcome Trust the process If this resonates with you, send me a DM, let’s chat. Nourish your purpose now, Rebecca The pivotal point for me to even start thinking about a change for myself was when my mom died.
When I began the quest of health and wellness, it was for my mom. She was diabetic. She was overweight. What many people don’t know is, when I was a kid, my mom and I went to the 4th of July parade where we lived in Monument, Colorado. When we got out of the VW bus that her friend drove, blood had covered mom’s seat. She had hemorrhaged. She was carried off by ambulance and I stayed with close friends for a week. The vision I saw at the young age of 6 was something that could not be unseen. It also gave me the greatest fear – losing my mom. Because of that fear, I remember crying myself to sleep many nights, even in my teens. As I got older, everything I did, was to help her in any way possible. Just so we wouldn’t lose her. When she had her stroke, it was the hardest decision to make to let her go. Imagine all my life trying to help her and then I couldn’t. My passion for everything I was doing died along with her. I didn’t care to keep my studio open. I didn’t have any desire to keep doing what I was doing. I felt lost. Defeated. Devastated. F@*k it. But still, I kept going. Then when we found out we were pregnant with Emma, quiet whispers kept creeping in. Let the studio go. Be PRESENT with the family – with myself. I kept on for another couple of years but these quiet whispers were getting louder and louder. How can I slow this all down? How can I create simplicity in my life? Life is way too precious, I want to soak in every moment with my kiddos How can I turn off my brain going a million miles an hour of everything I HAVE to do so that I can be PRESENT? How am I going to make this all work if I close down my studio? How do I move FORWARD without it feeling like life is speeding up? Have you ever felt like this? This mental tug-of-war? Send me a message if so because I know exactly how that all feels. Those are the questions we’ll be looking at during our Nourish Your Purpose Now lesson THIS evening. TONIGHT July 8 6pm (MTN) Zoom ID – 475 696 7903 Password – summit Would be honored if you joined me Nourish your purpose now, Rebecca |
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