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I wanted to share this great poem I read that captures the change process:
Portia Nelson Chapter 1 I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I am lost. I am helpless. It isn’t my fault. It takes forever to find a way out. Chapter 2 I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend that I don’t see it. I fall in again. I can’t believe I am in this same place. But it isn’t my fault. It still takes a long time to get out. Chapter 3 I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it is there. I still fall in. It’s a habit. But my eyes are open. I know where I am. It is my fault. I get out immediately. Chapter 4 I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it. Chapter 5 I walk down another street. We all have that one bad habit we KNOW we shouldn’t be doing. Yet, we continue to do it. It’s an unconscious pattern that we have gotten ourselves into.
Here’s the thing, when it comes to changing a habit, getting in shape, eating better, creating a life you desire…there will always be roads to navigate. The process is never linear. What saddens me is those who have started and stopped so many times they’ve unconsciously conditioned themselves that it really won’t work. They wait for the perfect day. The perfect time. When things settle down, I’ll do it. Or something many of my fitpro friends and I have heard many times, “I’ll start the program when I lose the weight first.” There is already a wall put up by those limiting beliefs that someone will not commit to themselves for the long game. And that’s my message for today: Play the long-game. Keep showing up. Keep trying. Be patient. Progress, not perfection Remember that changing habits can be challenging. Here a 5 tips to help you along:
It’s my goal to help those who want to go from stuck to sustainable, to eliminate their limits, to recommit to themselves, find and nourish their purpose. If you want to chat more about how to get unstuck, clear the overwhelm and on a road to balance and peace, reach out, I am here. Nourish your purpose now, Rebecca
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Are you searching to figure out where you’re next step will be?
To change your lifestyle? To enhance it somehow? To stay consistent in areas that you’re not? To find your own purpose and vision? Really. Give it some thought. Be honest. Here are a few prompts to help you get started.
What do you want? We often start a change process thinking about what we don’t want. For instance:
That’s a good start. But it’s not exactly a clear action plan, is it? In addition, the negative self-talk can bring our energy and belief about ourselves down even more. Define what you do want. Here are some more prompts for you to think about…
Doesn’t that feel way more inspiring? It also starts to give us a roadmap for taking action. In a year from today, in an ideal world…
Don't worry about how "realistic" this is right now. Whether it’s climbing a mountain, biking across the world, going cliff diving, winning a competition, feeling like a ninja, or just fitting in to your old pants… imagine who and where you could be one year from now. How are you feeling? At peace Effortlessness Calm Freedom However you choose to envision your future one year from now: Imagine it. Capture it. Have fun with it. And make it just a little more real today. Because we get so caught up in our everyday lives focusing on what we don’t want, we miss the importance of creating the life we do. Much love, Becs When we are still and present we can hear those quiet whispers that are guiding us in the direction we’re suppose to go.
When we fight and try to control those whispers we become anxious, frustrated, depressed and even take it out on our loved ones. Listen to those quiet whispers. Trust them. We often have these internal battles in our minds of how things are going to unfold and it can drive us crazy! We don’t know how things are going to turn out, COVID or not. We can make plans, pivot and adjust but there is no guarantee how things will look a year from now. Focus on today and strive to be a little bit better than yesterday.
We can only control what we can control which is why I firmly believe to be the leader of my own life. To be my own guarantee. It took a lot of work to bring my life into balance and even now as my kiddos are screaming the new Frozen song in the background, I wouldn’t have it any other way. If you need help with clearing the overwhelm and bringing your life into balance, send me a DM, reply to this email and let’s chat! Nourish your purpose now, Rebecca Wow! I don’t know about you but even in these unusual times, I can’t believe how quickly this year has flown by. I mean, we are already ending the 6th week of this quarantine. I don’t know about you but I could use another 6 weeks or so! I’m kidding of course, I mean, I really need a haircut. Have you tried cutting your hair yet? Luckily you can’t tell where I’ve screwed up and even if you could, hey, I’m not going anywhere for anyone to see!
Anyway, with everything going on it might be hard to keep up with random weird things so I wanted to let you know that May is National Recommitment Month. This year has been flying by and it’s so easy to get caught up in the day to day, especially recent events. Sometimes we get off track and sometimes we find that our original goal no longer speaks to us. Whatever your situation may be, this is a great opportunity to step back and see how you’re doing. This will challenge us to evaluate important areas of our life, refocus and recommit. We have so many areas of our lives that we want to improve upon, it’s often difficult to keep them all balanced. Have you ever done really great at an exercise program, like you’re killing it in the gym, but just couldn’t get the eating right? Or your nutrition is on point but you haven’t worked out in weeks. Or even something a little more personal that you’re contributing energy, love and time into but keep putting yourself on the back burner. So how do we Recommit? Well that all depends on your initial goals but here is how I simplify and break it down to achieve mine (not to be confused with EASY, it still requires EFFORT).
I hope these five tips help you Recommit to YOU this month! Let me know if I can help in any way! Nourish your purpose now, Rebecca Someone asked me the other day how I was doing with the quarantine.
There are a couple of the obvious adjustments where we needed to pivot (school, not seeing family and friends, and gearing up with gloves and masks when grocery shopping). We made some major life changes over the last three years that have thankfully prepared us to be able to pivot so quickly and almost seamlessly. This isn’t to say there aren’t challenges. Joey and I are picking on each other more. He tries to push my buttons:) I crave for silence and that's hard to come by until late at night. The bathroom isn’t even safe without someone barging in or banging on the door! But these are all gifts too. I set out three years ago to create the life that I wanted. To be able to be present with my family. To slow down. To literally cherish every moment on this earth. To have the backyard I’ve always wanted. My sanctuary. To live by my own rules. To have balance and simplicity Once I set my intentions out into the universe, little by little things started falling in place on purpose and by accident or the powers that be depending on what you believe. If anything, these last three years have taught me how to thrive in challenging situations, even in these times. Thriving is different for everyone. For me, it’s for the reasons mentioned above. Creating a life in balance is not an easy task. It needs to be nourished every single day. Much like tending to the soil in my backyard. It’s a work in progress. But it needs to start with a clear vision of what you want for your life. If you need help in creating that, shoot me a message and let’s have that conversation. Nourish your purpose now, Rebecca 16 years ago today I went downtown for Spring Crawl to hang out with some friends. If you were never aware of Spring Crawl, basically all of downtown closed off the streets and you could walk around bar hopping.
I was one month out of a nearly 12 year relationship and this girl was ready to PAR-TAY! I had everything planned out. My routine was dialed in I had sights on finishing my degree Getting in the best shape of my life Creating my “dream” backyard TOTAL FREEDOM LIVING I certainly had no plans for marriage and kids. It will never happen. Nope. Hard pass. Completely off the table. Yup, I had it all planned out. It’s funny because mom would always say, “Never say never." I would just laugh and think “I don’t want this mom, it’s not going to happen.” My friend and I walk into Sunshine Theater simply because all of the other bars were at capacity. Not long after we get there, my friend points out a guy who also works at Costco. “Hey, it’s Joey!” Oh, hello you tall dark and handsome fella, I know you! We worked together in the bakery for a couple of years and yeah he was so good looking but he annoyed the hell out of me! Over time, I moved to morning merchandising, he moved to night merchandising and it wasn’t anything out of the ordinary, we just never saw each other and that was that. Although, someone who still worked in the bakery who saw me as she came in and saw him as she left, kept dropping hints. Looking back, I think she was planting the seeds. Anyway, we go over, say hi and before we know it, we’re meeting his best friend Ruben and he’s buying us a round of beers. We all hang out the entire night and of course I have to leave because we needed to be to work in about 4 hours. A week later we started dating A week later he asked if I wanted to go steady (yeah, he said steady) Um, nope. A week later after that he asked if I wanted to go steady Dude, no. I just got my freedom, I’m not giving that up! The third week of dating, “will you go steady with me? I promise you, you won’t regret it and I will never hurt you.” Ugh, ok fine but just know I’m outta here if you do. 4 months later we were engaged. He took my mom for breakfast and asked for her blessing. She told him “I’ve never seen her this happy, of course.” 10 months after that we were married 16 years and two crazy monkeys later, I still accomplished all that I wanted and so much more including what I thought I didn’t and we did it TOGETHER. Team Grijalva! The lesson in all of this: When you’re not looking for it or forcing it the best things (or people) come. When you stop forcing your weight loss Stop forcing your relationships or controlling them on what you want Stop forcing something just because someone else is doing it When you let go of the control of whatever it is you're trying to control, beautiful things happen. Oh, and moms are always right! Nourish your purpose now, Rebecca The world changed in a matter of weeks last month.
Coronavirus spread fast and has impacted the entire globe. In our lifetimes, we’ve never encountered anything quite like this. Not that posed such imminent threat with such urgency. Nothing that has shut down travel, major industries and venues, schools, and businesses like this before in our lifetime. The impact will be felt for years to come, no doubt. Both emotionally for those who’ve lost loved ones and economically as well. Uncertain times lead to panic and fear. We end up making decisions from a place of panic and fear - which will never be the best, most rational ones. In times of fear, most people pull back. They retreat. People don’t like uncertainty because it can violate one of the top needs all humans have - the need to know they’re ok. That survival isn’t at stake. That they’re not about to lose everything. But if you’re reading this today, evaluate what your life is right now. Are you sitting in a warm home with food? Do you have everything you need? If so, and you’ve got loved ones close by, remind yourself that right now you are ok. You will be ok through this and on the other side. Because it will pass, even if the days are beginning to feel long. Connection is the number one human need along with significance and certainty. Stay connected to those you love. Ask yourself or them how you can contribute or help? So, I just wanted to ask you – what can I do for you to make your life healthier and better today? Hit reply and please let me know. Nourish your purpose now, Rebecca Part of being ready, willing, and able is knowing WHY you're doing something in the first place.
Yesterday was World Stroke Day. When I think about what is important in my life, when I really dig down deep about the kind of person I want to be and know WHY, it’s because of events that yesterday represented. Knowing what's important to us and why gives us direction and purpose. If we live according to those values, life (and often, good health) "flows" almost effortlessly. When we don’t do what we believe or feel in our gut to be "right", we don't feel good. And our bodies show it. So, what do you value? Dig down for a second.
Ask yourself why do I want to accomplish this? Then, with whatever answer you come up with, ask why again and again I’m reminded of my toddler asking “why” with every answer I give her, BUT there is something to that method. For instance, for me: "I want to be healthy."
That’s a lot of insight for a few little questions. For me, being healthy really means being in charge of my life to prevent outcomes like my mom. That’s a crucial insight. I’m not just looking to be as strong as I was. I also want to feel a certain way at the end of the process. Strong. More energetic. More in control of the outcome (even though we have no way of knowing what will actually happen, at least I can say I did everything I could). And that's what's really important to me. Being strong is just a way to get there. Your 5 Whys Ok, now it’s your turn to play. Write down your 5 Whys. Really. Give it some thought. Be honest. If you’d care to share send me a DM, I’d love to hear from you and even help you get there! Nourish your purpose now, Rebecca I want to share my “lifting” session today.
I am restricted on how heavy I can go and even the intensity. Some days I’m in the mood for heavy lifting but I have to be smart so that I don’t have a flare up. In the end, 20 minutes is all that was needed for this light session of squats and deadlifts. As you can see, my heart rate stayed within the blue. Meaning it didn’t go beyond 123. I only burned 62 calories which isn’t very much. But it was never my intent beat myself up. I want us to begin thinking of our workouts as a practice, much like yoga. Yoga is a practice. Our workouts should be too. I only focused on two things: Squats and deadlifts. They weren’t heavy but they were purposeful. They weren’t fast, they were slow and controlled. Each rep taking the time to pause and feel that mind muscle engagement versus repping them out quickly to get it over with. I feel refreshed, accomplished and ready to go about the rest of my day. We don’t have to beat ourselves up to get where we want to go. It’s taken me decades to finally realize this mentally and physically. Be consistent. Celebrate those small wins and enjoy the process. What area of your life do you need to loosen the reigns a little or maybe even a lot? It's hard to believe it was 18 years ago today...
The September 11th attacks that changed our country. I was working in the Bakery Dept at Costco that morning. I remember someone coming in and saying we've been attacked. Several of us started wondering out of the Bakery, meeting up with the Meat Dept and walking up to the break room. For most of that morning, everything stood still. We watched the break room TV for what seemed like forever. Pretty soon most of the warehouse was gathered in there stunned. We saw the second plane hit. We couldn't believe it. We were questioning what we saw on TV. Did that just really happen? We gathered in prayer that morning all holding hands in a circle and went back to work. We still had a job to do getting the warehouse ready for opening. I think by that point, we just did what was priority and didn't worry about anything else. I was also working at Veterinary Clinic on Wyoming for my clinical back when I went to school to be a Veterinary Assistant. One of the ladies I had gone to school with had traveled to NYC the day before. The anticipation waiting to hear back if she was OK or not was unsettling. It seemed the drive home was almost like I was in a trace. When I came home my mom had rolled out the big TV to her work space so she could have it on nonstop for weeks. I really don't know what my "message" is here today - other than to tell your family you love them. Give those extra snuggles and hugs to your kiddos even when there's so much work to be done. We're not guaranteed the ability to do that tomorrow. I know my tag line is Nourish Your Purpose Now but this sinks in my heart even more today. I'm grateful for you, Rebecca |
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