A little tough love today...

A little tough love today...

I asked a question yesterday in my private Facebook group:
Is it MORE important to change diet and exercise or behavior patterns?

For several weeks I’ve been sharing A LOT about mindset.
It all ties in to this-

Where the mind flows the body goes.
You all have one thing in common.
You’ve come to me one way or another for fitness and nutrition coaching.
But none of that matters.

Why?

Because mindset matters most.

In everything we do.

Take weight loss for example:
It's not just "I want to lose weight."

• It’s I want to lose weight because I hate the way I look and feel.
• I hate that I cannot play with my kids or grand-kids.
• I hate the fact that I keep putting myself last in everything and I feel so overwhelmed and stressed that I cannot find the time.
• I don’t want to spend money on something that has failed me before because why would I trust that?
• Instead, I’m going to keep repeating the same patterns telling myself that I know what to do, I just need to do it.
• I’m not going to spend money on that because it’s too expensive yet, I have no problem pouring money into fast food, junk food and drinks, take-out and the latest fashion designs and electronics.

And this is no way meant to be rude, disrespectful or condescending at all. This is the exact language I’ve heard from so many women over the last 15 years.

So let me ask… how is that working for you?

It’s an honest question that, if you are still struggling with achieving your goals, maybe we need to be honest and get real with.

Because here’s the thing, and I’ve seen this over and over again throughout my career in the fitness industry. Instead of playing the long game and making themselves a priority, every single day, people will jump to the next program. And then when that one doesn’t work, they move on to the next program, gym or trainer. And when that doesn’t work they move on again.

Over time, a narrative, a story has built up in their heads that they’re a failure, and that nothing will work so why bother, that they will always be this way. Their unconscious narrative has given up before they even begin.

Here is where everything that I’ve been talking about comes into the picture.

• You need to play the long game.
• Push aside any ideas of quick fixes and fad diets
• Ask yourself what you need to stop doing so it can happen naturally all by itself
• Learn why you start and stop
• Learn to keep it simple
• Learn to master the basics
• Learn why you keep telling yourself you can’t afford it, when really, you’re buying crap food and materialistic things a priority and not making yourself a priority.
• Learn why you keep repeating the same behaviors over and over again
• Learn why you keep hitting these road blocks
• Learn why you need to keep going for the next solution when the solution is right in between your ears.
• Learn the habits and behaviors that are going to move you forward instead of derail you.
• Learn how to create a vision for yourself so that you have direction
• Learn how to eliminate any limits you’ve been putting on yourself
• Learn how to change the story you’ve been telling yourself

Because the story you tell is the truth you know. You don’t know what you don’t know.

My coach said this today that completely resonated with me and I hope it does with you too, “Your success in anything is positively and absolutely guaranteed unless or until you get in the way.”

Hold the vision
Trust the process
Commit to the day
Nourish your purpose now

Mad love for you all

Reach out if this resonates with you and you’re ready to learn how to change the story you’ve been telling yourself.

Rebecca