Someone asked me the other day how I was doing with the quarantine.
There are a couple of the obvious adjustments where we needed to pivot (school, not seeing family and friends, and gearing up with gloves and masks when grocery shopping).
We made some major life changes over the last three years that have thankfully prepared us to be able to pivot so quickly and almost seamlessly.
This isn’t to say there aren’t challenges.
Joey and I are picking on each other more. He tries to push my buttons:)
I crave for silence and that's hard to come by until late at night.
The bathroom isn’t even safe without someone barging in or banging on the door!
But these are all gifts too.
I set out three years ago to create the life that I wanted.
To be able to be present with my family.
To slow down.
To literally cherish every moment on this earth.
To have the backyard I’ve always wanted. My sanctuary.
To live by my own rules.
To have balance and simplicity
Once I set my intentions out into the universe, little by little things started falling in place on purpose and by accident or the powers that be depending on what you believe.
If anything, these last three years have taught me how to thrive in challenging situations, even in these times.
Thriving is different for everyone.
For me, it’s for the reasons mentioned above.
Creating a life in balance is not an easy task. It needs to be nourished every single day.
Much like tending to the soil in my backyard. It’s a work in progress.
But it needs to start with a clear vision of what you want for your life.
If you need help in creating that, shoot me a message and let’s have that conversation.
Nourish your purpose now,
16 years ago today I went downtown for Spring Crawl to hang out with some friends. If you were never aware of Spring Crawl, basically all of downtown closed off the streets and you could walk around bar hopping.
I was one month out of a nearly 12 year relationship and this girl was ready to
I had everything planned out.
My routine was dialed in
I had sights on finishing my degree
Getting in the best shape of my life
Creating my “dream” backyard
I certainly had no plans for marriage and kids. It will never happen.
Completely off the table.
Yup, I had it all planned out.
It’s funny because mom would always say, “Never say never."
I would just laugh and think “I don’t want this mom, it’s not going to happen.”
My friend and I walk into Sunshine Theater simply because all of the other bars were at capacity.
Not long after we get there, my friend points out a guy who also works at Costco.
“Hey, it’s Joey!”
Oh, hello you tall dark and handsome fella, I know you!
We worked together in the bakery for a couple of years and yeah he was so good looking but he annoyed the hell out of me! Over time, I moved to morning merchandising, he moved to night merchandising and it wasn’t anything out of the ordinary, we just never saw each other and that was that.
Although, someone who still worked in the bakery who saw me as she came in and saw him as she left, kept dropping hints. Looking back, I think she was planting the seeds.
Anyway, we go over, say hi and before we know it, we’re meeting his best friend Ruben and he’s buying us a round of beers. We all hang out the entire night and of course I have to leave because we needed to be to work in about 4 hours.
A week later we started dating
A week later he asked if I wanted to go steady (yeah, he said steady)
A week later after that he asked if I wanted to go steady
Dude, no. I just got my freedom, I’m not giving that up!
The third week of dating, “will you go steady with me? I promise you, you won’t regret it and I will never hurt you.”
Ugh, ok fine but just know I’m outta here if you do.
4 months later we were engaged. He took my mom for breakfast and asked for her blessing. She told him “I’ve never seen her this happy, of course.”
10 months after that we were married
16 years and two crazy monkeys later, I still accomplished all that I wanted and so much more including what I thought I didn’t and we did it TOGETHER.
The lesson in all of this:
When you’re not looking for it or forcing it the best things (or people) come.
When you stop forcing your weight loss
Stop forcing your relationships or controlling them on what you want
Stop forcing something just because someone else is doing it
When you let go of the control of whatever it is you're trying to control, beautiful things happen.
Oh, and moms are always right!
Nourish your purpose now,
The world changed in a matter of weeks last month.
Coronavirus spread fast and has impacted the entire globe.
In our lifetimes, we’ve never encountered anything quite like this. Not that posed such imminent threat with such urgency. Nothing that has shut down travel, major industries and venues, schools, and businesses like this before in our lifetime.
The impact will be felt for years to come, no doubt.
Both emotionally for those who’ve lost loved ones and economically as well.
Uncertain times lead to panic and fear.
We end up making decisions from a place of panic and fear - which will never be the best, most rational ones.
In times of fear, most people pull back.
People don’t like uncertainty because it can violate one of the top needs all humans have - the need to know they’re ok. That survival isn’t at stake. That they’re not about to lose everything.
But if you’re reading this today, evaluate what your life is right now.
Are you sitting in a warm home with food?
Do you have everything you need?
If so, and you’ve got loved ones close by, remind yourself that right now you are ok.
You will be ok through this and on the other side.
Because it will pass, even if the days are beginning to feel long.
Connection is the number one human need along with significance and certainty. Stay connected to those you love. Ask yourself or them how you can contribute or help?
So, I just wanted to ask you – what can I do for you to make your life healthier and better today?
Hit reply and please let me know.
Nourish your purpose now,